Sowji's birthday

 

IS LUSTY-FLIRTING GOOD?

Hi,

There was a big realization yesterday I had, so just wanted to pose some points before you. If you had any time chat with a girl in lusty manner, then this is for you.

About it:
Here I am discussing the converstaion between a boy & a girl, where they flirt with each as if they are too close to each other. They like or find no diffuculty in talking on sexual matters. Here I am confining the issue to just voral dicussions, but not phisical activities. We never care the risk, becos hardly any one else will get clues about it.

Good about it:
Its exciting to speak about such non-trivial things with someone whom we know a bit. Both of them know, its not a permanent relation, so nobody is worried about their other attitude and their further future. Just take the pleasure of the moment. But only thing are they are momentory, cant give pleasure for long time. Aftersome time, we dont know, whether they really think of us, or found another one, like us.

Discussion:
If we know someone, like this we dont find them ethically good. If we ourselves are like that, think of our vision, how it will be. Do we treat every one around us, morale? Obviously not? Especially towards our partner? We never know. If they tell about their open culture( reg discussion about lusty things with others) can we accept, atleast I wont.

What we loose:
As far as I feel, we loose our moral ethics.

• We can never say heartly, that what we are doing is right & and assure every one else can do the same.
• We loose the way we look at society and loose trust in others, including life partner.
• To be a role model for others is even a far matter.
• Last but not the least, Sexual matters are sensitive and they will be at their best if we confine ourselves to our life partners alone. Think of the happyness, who are by body, by sole are ours, the only one who cant live with out us. Having them all the day with us, holding each other's hand, thru out life..... how Happy our lives are to have them in life.

Why am I speaking all these:
From last couple of days, I found few new girls, with whom I was ejoying the chat, where obscenity was no blocker for us. But moments came, that I realized how much I ignored my wife and missed her love. So I will never again bring anything that hinders our relation.

Final Question:
Before this true happyness, does the lusty discussions really work? Wont they cease our true happyness.

My today's business ::Orkut - Flirt - Wife - Home

A usual another day.

Post the meeting with prof, just wasted some more time on orkut and slept.

Evening it was swimming time, Was feeling cold&caugh but still wanted to take a dip. Seems to be its god's plan for my well being, though I tried to attend any of the slots from 5:15 to 8:15, all failed due to some reason or another.

While coming back went to meet Anand( my fisrt semester roomy). Due to exams it was been long time to meet him. So from 6pm we had continous talk until he got a call from his girl. These days I was much onto flirting, so discussion were "sensitivities of girls", and "if we act/tell cock-and-bull stories to convence them, are we liers or nice guys?" Finally the conslusion was lying to soothe them is no sin, but not always.

Anyways, The night was a bit hectic night,not for me but for my project-parners ( since they did most of a course project,where deadline was the next day). The relavant applications in lab were expired, so I took my laptop there. Inbetween Webmining(another course) scores were out, wow, cant expect a sleeping beast can secure 8th rank out of 30. Guess, u know, whom I am talking about?

I was spending my time, by reading a relavant paper and playing music there. this went till 4AM. Back to room, and what else?

Orkut again, check profiles add friends add friends add friends. What to do, it was a challenge for me with (our earlier hero )JOHN, that I have to beat him in orkut friend's list in 7 days ( ie by 6th May).

From known profiles, added nearly 130 friends, from then finding any other known people was like hunt for water in sand. So started spamming on ORKUT friends of friends. Today I will be leaving home, hope the pending requests will make me cross him and give me a usual win over JOHN again. He he.

The night when I was on the way to lab(10pm), spoke to my wife, the topic was again reg flirting with girls. It was a continous debate for 20 mins, she won, cos she has the base.

It was topic on one of my friend, raju, who has become so close with a girl, that they started speaking to each other abt every thing. It was exciting for him, discussing boys' topics with girls. But being best friend of mine, he used to tell me every thing and check if he is correct. Since he was enjoying alot, I gav him a very thin constraint, not to lead the words into real emotions like ILLICIT LOVE or mutual breakdown for physical contacts.

During my call with my wife, when I was trying to explain her, again and agian that, "It just knowlege sharing in clarifying a girl's obvious doubts and they both are healthy in relationship. They are adults, matured enough.", her answer was only one thing, If a boy has any open relation with other girl, who may not be his future wife, his thoughts towards his future wife or any other girl also changes. No matter how good that his wife may be, he will internally have some feeling, that its possible for her to open relationship with others. Resulting, unhealthy, untrustful & weak relationship between husband & wife.


Sounded correct for me. Not only that, thank god it was right time it happened. Becos just from couple of days before, I came across 2 girls, who are my very old buddies. Flirting with them went like each other were calling others, sweet heart, giving kisses on messenger, exchange heart symbols. It was great fun time, playing with each other, in a bit romantic manner. I dint find it wrong, during that time. Everything was for fun, but almost from then I can observe a clear difference in my behaviour, Most of the times I was questioning myself, 'Are you doing right?', I used to convince myself, the futher questions were, 'if my wife has any such free relationship, how should I react, if I am not wrong, neither she will be?' I could not answer myself. To my surprice from last 3 days, I observed that, I dint call mywife more than twice a day, where the usual rate is around 15 times a day. I forgot couple of times my cell phone, in friend's room , in lab, but didnt even felt that sowjanya(my wife) will be calling me,and I should get cell back soon. On next call, I was giving her some stories, saying i was buzy doing something. Its was a biggest lie that, I cannot find time to speak to her, no matter how buzy I am.

So the phone call with my wife, and topic on other friend, gave me big lesson. I realized how much I missed a true love these 3-4 days, and was enjoying the temporary lusty-flirting. After coming from lab, at 4:30am found raju online( the same friend abt whom I spoke to my wife), the topic is "IS FLIRTING GOOD. ARE WE DOING IT RIGHT", by end of discussion, I could make him realize what mistake he would have done, if he has continued further, firting with girl. We both were very happy about our decisions. And both came out of the lusty-flirting business. Now his next step is to make his girl realize, that true happyness & satisfaction lies in Dedicating life to one(husband) and expolore the life's extreams of the relationship, than discussing these matters with others guys, before marriage.
A bit hard job, but I am sure he will make it.

I will write another blog on flirting, ur comments are most welcome. After the discussion with raju, another old buddy, hrishi came online and chat went till 6:30am. to my surprise, our hero JOHN is still awake, and was chatting with me, regarding his recent UBUNTU (linux) installation issues. Before we went to bed, we decided to meet next morning. Obviosly GYM. Body buildup jo karna hai.

Went to him, at 8:15AM today, lazy John started giving reasons, and was trying to convince me to stay(sleep) in his room. No worries, went alone to GYM, tried few new instruments, seems like Muscles are getting strong. HE HE HE, john misses it.


This morning the call with sowjanya was real good, she doent know why I was so happy this time, But for me, I found her back, as my dearest most.


Today I will be going home, but from home dad is also leaving to Nellore(my proper town) on some other work. If he leaves then, I cannot meet him for another 6-8 months. I tried to talk to dad, but he didnt turn up.(cos he is angry on me, due to obvious issues of love marriag). My brother satish lifted the call. Dad had recent heart attack, so I didnot like to send him alone. Asked satish to along with dad and commompany him. My loving bother, he agreed & would have taken leave for next 4 days.

Seems I am off the way my targets, of which MTP, programming are of main focus. Will try to utilize these 4 holidays for these.